The world has become a secluded place. People have taken isolation and social distancing more seriously (some of us have had social distancing since childhood). Most of us like to be curled up in our shells. Most of us are living just for the sake of it. We take our lives for granted. We lazily watch our lives slip away from our hands, thinking there is nothing that can be done. There will come a time (if we outlive the apocalypse) when our toothless, wrinkled self will wonder, “What did we do when we were young?” We were just waiting for years to pass by, waiting for something good to happen to us, without even trying, hoping for a change in our bereft lives.
Most of us always doubt our self-worth after a breakup. It is strange that even though it might not be your fault, you fail to address it as just “their loss” or be grateful that it did not work out and move on. On the contrary, you dig out all the flaws in yourself. “Maybe I am crazy.” “Maybe I am weird.” It may take countless relationships for you to find the right one. Each failed relationship does not mean that you are obsolete. You are better than you think. Be with someone who understands your worth and likes you for what you are, rather than allowing them to make you feel like something is wrong with you. We have to understand that no one is perfect. The people who make you feel like shit are themselves in a fistfight with their own demons. Every person who comes into our lives teaches us new things, new ways of living, and new perceptions about life. Grab the knowledge and move on, leaving the bitterness behind.
The way I pacify myself is: I tell myself, I think I was happy with him, I used to smile without reason, but the rain does that too. Rain makes me happy too. I smile without reason when it rains. Every one of us has our own “rain” in our lives. We just need to remember and recognize what that is. We ignore the small factors in our lives that were always there and made us happy. Our eternal search for things we do not have will always be an obstacle to our inner peace.
I heard Sushmita Sen say in an interview, “Whatever you feel, not motivated, passionless, directionless, loveless, hopeless, or whatever loss you are facing, know that it is temporary, know that it is a feeling that will pass, don’t allow that to define any action, any decision you make, because that’s when you come to regret it once it passes.” Take your time, and you have to be very strong to take your time. There will be days when you hit rock bottom, but when you look back at it, you rose from it. “
We feel miserable about ourselves and wonder why it always happens to us, but you will realize that it is just life and happens to everyone. That does not mean that you turn a blind eye to your issues. There are innumerable problems in this world. There are things humans do not even understand. There are so many possibilities that could end the world. There are so many theories the human brain cannot even comprehend. There is so much to live for. We can try and make our time count.
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